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Final Death Cleaning

We had a few tasks left that were involved with my Swedish Death Cleaning project this year, which was find a new attorney as our old one retired (found) and update our 20 year old wills (done), and make our final arrangements with a local funeral home (next on the list.) It's not what I'd call happy work, but it is necessary and long overdue for both of us. Also, I finally convinced my guy to commit to his arrangements, which he's never wanted to do before now. To illustrate our differing attitudes about death: He thinks we'll both live forever. I think he might live to be 100, but I'll be lucky to wake up tomorrow morning.

The whole point of making these difficult decisions and arranging them now is to spare each other and/or our heirs the hassle of it in the time immediately after our deaths. I also have very strong and unwavering sentiments about how I want to wrap up the end of my life that are in opposition to the beliefs of my extended family, and I want my wishes respected. No one in the family except my guy has ever respected what I've wanted, particularly in regard to matters pertaining to my beliefs versus their religion, so he's the only one I can trust, really. If we both die together in a car accident, however, I need iron-clad arrangements already in place to keep my demise private and have it handled in the manner I want.

I'm a live for today and be happy in the moment soul, so it's a bit aggravating to have to do this. At the same time I know it's better to do it now than leave it in the hands of others. In a way it's like insurance for the time when I'm no longer here, so I can be sure to have my death managed the way I want, and to protect the ones I love.

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